Are you seeking true love and always end up feeling disappointed? If you want to find love but you keep doing these 3 things, it’s time to look take at look within yourself and consider if stopping these 3 things could be the missing piece of the puzzle. We all deserve to be loved, and the first step on the journey to true love is to love yourself first! Next, you will need to do the work rather than waiting for someone else to come along and “fix” you, and finally, now is the time to let go of the habits that have kept you from getting hurt, but are also holding you back from a true partnership built on love and respect.
You Have to Love Yourself First!
In the search for true love, the very first step must be loving oneself first! If you don’t love the special being that you are, how can you expect anyone else to? If you are looking for a true partner to share your life with, someone who will walk with you and encourage you to live your best life, you have to treat yourself that way first. When you find yourself frustrated in your search for a loving and respectful partner, take a step back to examine how you honestly feel and treat yourself! Start with a few small steps that can make a huge impact, we recommend that people who are looking for love take a close look at their self-talk, and begin to shut down the negativity that people can often inflict on themselves.
Looking for a Savior
When you aren’t at peace with who you are and you are constantly waiting for someone to “fix” you, you will likely attract toxic people who are looking for someone to take advantage of. Don’t fall into this trap! Take the time to do the difficult self-work that makes you an attractive partner and will help you to attract loving and respectful people into your life. When you want someone else to do the heavy lifting for you, you will likely be disappointed with the caliber of people who enter your life. When you know that you are a whole and complete person who is looking for a partner rather than a savior you are opening yourself up to attracting likeminded people who are also seeking someone to walk the journey of life with.
Holding on to Comfortable Habits that Are Holding You Back
There are a lot of habits that you know don’t serve you well, but you’ve become comfortable with the perceived protection that they offer. Self-medicating and hiding out from the world are two habits that you know aren’t helpful in your quest to find true love, but you may be reluctant to give them up. If you want to find love you have to make sacrifices. If this is your situation, remember that life’s greatest growth comes when you leave your comfort zone. Don’t let feeling comfortable and safe hold you back from a full and vibrant life that could lead to the love of your life. Opening yourself up and allowing emotional vulnerability is an essential part of finding true love. Let go of the defense mechanisms and withdrawal strategies that have both kept you from getting hurt and also hold you back from finding love!
Do you recognize yourself in some of these 3 things to stop doing if you want to find love? If you do, it’s time to get down to the hard work that is necessary to get you to a place where you can attract true love! Yes, it may be scary to let go of these behaviors and mindsets that have protected you from emotional hurt, but if you truly want to find love, you really have no choice! If you find it difficult to move past your current behaviors and mindsets that are holding you back from finding love, it may be useful to engage a life coach or therapist that can help you to successfully navigate the process. Once you love yourself and fully open yourself up to emotional vulnerability, you are well on your way to finding true love!