Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you felt alone?
Maybe it was after a break-up, or when someone you love passed away. Perhaps you experienced something traumatic and you felt like no one understood your pain. However it happens, we have likely all experienced feeling lost or alone at some point in our lives.
In these times it can feel like there is nowhere to turn, and that no matter what we do we can’t find the answers we need.
The thing is, no matter how badly we feel alone, there is always someone close by. But this person is someone we often overlooked. This person is our SELF.
Commonly when we go through struggles, we turn to others for support. And this is a very wise choice! The support of family and friends is crucial in helping us to move through a crisis. But how often do we turn to the one person who is always with us for that love and support we seek from others?
The truth is that we all hold great power within us. We have the ability to overcome huge challenges and we are incredibly adaptable. But often in times of struggle, we feel weak we feel alone and we forget how powerful we are.
So how can we better tune into our personal power in times of struggle?
1- Be present.
Often when we feel alone, or are experiencing any type of uncomfortable emotion our tendency is to avoid the present moment. We do this in any manner of ways from binge-watching TV, to drinking alcohol, even overeating food. This type of avoidance stops us from fully embracing what we are going through, and in turn blocks us from dealing with it. Bringing mindfulness and presence to where you are, no matter how uncomfortable is, is the key to moving through the discomfort you are in. This does not mean spending time in self-pity! It simply means accepting where you are RIGHT NOW so that you can process whatever you are feeling.
2- Write a list of your achievements.
When we are feeling alone or out of touch with our greatness, we can forget about all the amazing things we have achieved. Spend time reminding yourself! Write a list of 5 things you have achieved in this life. Then read over it, every day.
3- Become your own best friend.
You, alone, are enough as you are. Treat yourself as you would your best friend. Go to places you like, indulge in activities that make you happy and have fun!
We all feet alone at one time or another. Learning to enjoy and embrace time alone is an opportunity for self-love, and is a beautiful practice that will serve you for the rest of your life.
Do you have a specific practice to help you when you feel alone? Share it in the comments below.