Love is the most powerful force on Earth. Momentous, as it is fickle. Finding a genuine connection is harder today than ever, but that’s no reason to go live in a cave. Love will find you, when you’re ready for it. So start on these 3 things and you’ll be much closer to finding love.
Will I Ever Find Love? Not If You Keep Doing These 3 Things
The most common mistake people make when looking for a real connection is inauthenticity.
True love will never find you if you aren’t ready to reveal your true self. If you want someone to love you despite your faults, you must be ready to do the same for them.
‘False advertising’ has never been higher. Tinder, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram are all authenticity killers. People are more obsessed with their image than ever before.
If you want love, be yourself. Learn to love who you are and stop hiding it from the world. One day someone will fall for who you are, not how you wish to be perceived. Most people don’t learn this until much later in life, so start expressing your true character today you never know who’s watching.
Most people aren’t actively looking for someone who is negative, lazy or unhygienic. You set the standard for the type of person you want in your life. If you want a particular type of person, you must mirror that quality.
If you want someone fit and healthy. Pick up a celery stick and pound the pavement until you’re happy within yourself. You want someone who always sees the positive in every situation – mirror that mindset with your own outlook. If you want someone with drive and ambition, ask yourself if you possess those characteristics. Like attracts like, mirror the person you want and that connection will happen much more organically.
Finding genuine happiness within yourself, is one of the most important steps to making a genuine connection with someone, if you haven’t heard of The 3 Secrets To Happiness, you can discover them here.
If you want something in life, go out and get it! If you don’t put yourself out there no one will be able to find you. This ties in with ‘the mirror’ if you lack confidence, get nervous or don’t feel worthy – You must work on yourself. Become someone capable of loving and being loved.
Lacking confidence – partake in social activities, social groups, public speaking, join a sports team. It can be daunting, but it will be worth it, you might even meet someone going through the same situation as yourself.
Nervousness – Practice meditation & using affirmations. Put yourself into a situation where you have to deal with a lot of people, run a market stall every weekend, get a job is the customer service industry (yes really) such things are amazing for your self development. Once you have served a few thousand people, you’ll be sick of the sight of people, not nervous!
If that feels like a bit of a stretch try volunteering, a similar outcome but with less social pressure and the people are grateful for you even being there to help.
Self Worth – The stories you tell yourself become your reality.. Self worth issues can be a cruel mistress. You must do everything in your power to not only understand yourself, but to resolve your issues. Get counselling, get a life coach, get in shape, get educated, take on a task so big you must become a better version of yourself to complete it.
Let your light shine brightly, bravely be yourself and like moths to a flame, you will meet people. Make sure they mirror the characteristics you find important & you will find the love of your life.