We live in a society heavily obsessed with success, achievement and outcomes.
We learn from an early age the difference between winners and losers, and we are taught all manner of ways to avoid being the latter.
It is so deeply ingrained in us to “fight for survival.”
We adopt this mentality and before we know it we are operating mostly unconsciously from a place of fear, lack and even panic.
We spend most of our time in the sympathetic nervous system – the nervous system that prepares the body for intense physical activity and is often referred to as the fight-or-flight response.
From this space, we lose touch with the gentleness of life.
When we begin to explore our spiritual nature, we gain access to tools and practices like prayer, meditation, mindfulness and even yoga and tai chi.
By incorporating these practices in our day to day life, we may find it easier to relax and begin to trust the flow of life.
As we expand our presence through these practices, we can experience moments of clarity, deep love and even synchronicity. All of which provide a definable experience and connection to our faith.
But what about those of us who have never experienced this kind of faith?
What if you have never meditated in your life?
If the whole concept of “letting go” and “trusting the process” sounds terrifying and unachievable for you, never fear. There a few simple ways you can learn to stop “fighting” with your life and learn to trust the process of life.
Learning To Trust In A World That Teaches You To Constantly Fight For Survival
In the end, fighting with life is really just resistance to what is. When we do this, we take ourselves out of the present moment.
So actually, learning to stop fighting is actually just learning to accept what is.
1. Deep breaths | Learning To Trust
It sounds simple because it is! Deep breaths activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which relaxes the body and slows high energy functions. Start with simply sending your breath deep into your belly and holding for four seconds then releasing.
2. Focus on the positive | Learning To Trust
Be grateful for what you have. If you woke up today with air in your lungs, a roof over your head and access to clean water you are richer than 75% of the world. If you have money in the bank and change in your pocket, you are among the top 8% of the worlds wealthy. Remind yourself of this EVERY SINGLE DAY.
3. Give yourself time | Learning To Trust
You are not going to learn how to be present overnight. Presence is a practice. You need to retrain your body and mind to feel safe in accessing stillness and growing its place in your life.
Learning to let go is not an easy task when we have been taught to constantly fight to survive. It takes practice and commitment but the outcomes make it 100% worth the effort.