Life is full of differing opinions and challenging situations that can lead to conflict and trigger feelings of anger, hostility, and animosity. These disagreements can leave you feeling unbalanced, and cause disharmony in your relationships. If someone creates anger in you, there are ways of moving forward. As 20th century spiritual leader OSHO explains, a whole other outcome is possible when you decide to take a step back from conflict and simply watch what unfolds…
What To Do If Someone Creates Anger In You? Renowned Spiritual Leader OSHO Explains…
“Remember that if somebody creates anger in you, tell the person that you will come after 24 hours to answer him.” – OSHO recounting mystic George Gurdjieff’s advice from his father
The Alchemy of Observation
What exactly does OSHO mean by this? On one level it’s easy to see that he was referring to a ‘cooling off’ period so that you don’t say anything from a space of anger, but instead from a more calm and balanced place.
Yet on a deeper level he was speaking of that inner shift which takes place when you move away from identifying with being your feelings and instead become the observer of them. That 24-hour period was meant to help you understand the lessons that your feelings are trying to teach you. By observing them, you can transform a conflict into a greater awareness of what needs healed in order to effectively move forward. The same principle applies in quantum physics: scientific experiments show that the observer affects the reality of what is being observed.
Using Emotions as Tools
Just as your thoughts are tools of your brain that help you get through your daily tasks, emotions can be tools of your soul that assist with bringing greater wisdom to situations. They are like your employees who work to help you better manage your personal relationships and life goals.
So how do you become a more effective boss of your own emotions?
Write Them Down
The key to this first step is to keep it simple. If anger is your primary emotion. Write ANGER on a post-it and stick this in a place where you’ll see it throughout the day. This keeps you focused on that first authentic reaction to the conflict and will ensure that you don’t stuff it back down or sidestep dealing with it.
Everyone has different reasons for their stressors and triggers. For example, if you just got a haircut and your partner fails to notice, maybe you are angry because you feel neglected. On the other hand, it may be that you’re feeling unsure of your updated look and simply wanted some validation. The outcomes of what needs adjusted in your life would look very different for each of these two scenarios. This is why it’s important to step back and observe the reasons behind each feeling.
Take a Step in the Right Direction
Now that you have a better grasp on your reasons why. If someone creates anger in you, you can brainstorm a few ideas that you can take to make the situation better. For instance, if your anger stemmed from feeling neglected, jot down what you can do for yourself to feel more appreciated and loved, such as adding some self-care into your weekly routine.
Focusing on one small thing that you can do right now helps you take power back over the situation. Now, you are ready to revisit the conflict because no matter the outcome, you have solutions in place to help you positively change the underlying issues that led to your feelings. This allows you shift and uplift into greater happiness, joy, and abundance.