4 Signs You’re Not Happy With Life (And What You Can Do About It)
Life is hard. But are you making it harder?
Relationships that drain your energy. A job that feels like torture. Financial stress that weighs you down. Many of us get used to tolerating negativity – from television, negative people and our own habits.
It seems hard. But everyone faces problems in life. Adversity builds character and makes us feel capable. Without challenges, life loses its charm.
“We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. ” – Charles R. Swindoll
So now that you’re ready to change, here are the four signs that show you’re not happy with life:
1. You Are In A Toxic Relationship
“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.” – Tony Robbins
The people you surround yourself with either help you grow or drag you down.
Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes. They put us down, complain all the time, and make our lives miserable. Being with them fills our mind with anger, resentment, and frustration. Still, it seems hard to let them go.
The Way Out:
We teach people how to treat us. So if they are toxic, stand up to them and tell them you won’t tolerate it. Better yet, remove them from your life.
Maybe you can’t remove them because they are an integral part of your family or workplace. If this is the case, distance yourself from them emotionally. Rise above the negativity, don’t try to beat them at their own game.
And be extra aware of your self-talk. When we absorb negativity, our self-talk can become toxic: “I am not worthy”. Reinforce positive self-talk after every interaction with toxic people.
2. You Are Working A Job You Hate
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs
If you’re spending 8-10 hours in a job you hate, half of your life is becoming miserable and the other half is spent getting over how miserable it is. Even if you are making good money, such work is torture to your spirit.
The Way Out:
If this is your situation, a temporary shift in perspective can help you find meaning in your job. First, figure out the impact you’re making with your work. Are you changing people’s lives for the better?
Second, find someone trustworthy to confide in. Sharing your feelings helps you feel supported. And finally, start looking for a job you actually want to do.
3. You Get Frustrated With Little Things
“Sometimes the little opportunities that fly at us each day can have the biggest impact.”
― Danny Wallace
When life isn’t going how we want, we tend to get irritated with little things. For example, suppose your friend couldn’t answer your call because they were busy. But you start to think that they don’t value your friendship.
The Way Out:
Instead of being negative, sit down with a trusted friend or family member and talk to them about your situation. Find the root cause of your frustration and work on it directly. Talk to a counselor if the situation seems too complex. Learn to say yes to opportunities and bring new positive energy into your life.
4. Your Daily Routine is Mind Numbing
“What you do every day is your life in miniature.” – Robin Sharma
If your daily routine drains your energy, it’s time to re-evaluate it. Find the activities that drain your energy. Then make positive changes to bring in happiness.
You may want to exercise, even just 10-15 minutes every day, will make a big difference. Add a gratitude ritual. Spend time with positive people. Chase goals that matter to you. Happiness is self-made.
If you aren’t happy with life, make a firm decision to change it.
In the words of Robert Downey Jr., a prominent Hollywood actor who struggled with substance abuse for many years,
“It’s really not that difficult to overcome these seemingly ghastly problems. What is hard is to decide.” – Robert Downey Jr.